Ah, yes, technicalities about trading... I missed that point.
Pan, although it seems to be painful when our stops are hit, the importance of stops can never be underestimated.
It's a tool to impose discipline to traders.
It's a tool to limit the losses.
Maybe, from your perspective, it's a tool for brokerage firms to grab your equity.
But, nevertheless, it's more a savior than a killer.
If your stops hit, perhaps you didn't put them well enough (if you don't feel it that way, I do).
However, these are just my thoughts.
Every trader has his/her own trading principles. Nobody can't impose somebody to place stops anyway, vice versa.
